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Go to homepage This Isn’t Feedback: We’re Not Here to “Fix” People

This Isn’t Feedback: We’re Not Here to “Fix” People

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by Tamra Chandler

October 29, 2019

employee feedback

In the first of my four blogs about the things you may think are feedback, but actually aren’t, I introduced the idea that we’ve been getting feedback all wrong. I proposed that it’s time to fire up the potential positive power feedback can have. We started with a new and improved definition of feedback:

feedback

I then outlined four very specific things you may think are feedback, but actually aren’t:

  1. DON’T rely on simple platitudes. DO provide specific and relevant details.
  2. DON’T try to “fix” someone. DO offer feedback as a helpful tool they can use.
  3. DON’T indulge only in “manager tells.” DO engage in a conversation.
  4. DON’T rely on traditional annual reviews. DO make feedback part of an ongoing relationship and a continuous conversation.

We covered the first of these, simple platitudes, in my prior blog, so now let’s focus on the next issue. Listen up, folks: we’re not here to “fix” people. We’re here to help them.

DON’T try to “fix” someone. DO offer feedback as a helpful tool they can use.

Can you imagine swooping into the office where your hapless employee sits huddled in a chair, then announcing, “Never fear. I’m here to FIX you!” If you try to imagine it, I trust it makes you squirm.  Once again, we find ourselves in a place where we have all good intentions and sincerely believe we’re doing what we have been trained to do. We don’t intend to be overbearing, arrogant, or patronizing. But, gosh, when you say it like that (“I’m here to FIX you!”), it sure comes across in an uncomfortable way, doesn’t it?

Let’s start by remembering whose life and career it is in the first place. We each own our own careers. We are entitled to our own goals and aspirations. If these goals and aspirations don’t serve the organization we’re in, that’s fine; we can find another where we fit and add value. We’re not required to subjugate our own goals.

Let’s go back to the feedback definition and pay attention to the words “sole intention of helping.”  That person sitting in that chair doesn’t want to be “fixed,” and most likely doesn’t believe they are “broken,” but I’ll bet they’d love some well-intentioned help in the form of tangible information, insights, and advice that they can use to grow and develop in areas they choose. Let’s be real for a moment: could it actually work any other way? If someone doesn’t aspire to grow in some way we’re trying to push them toward, would they ever succeed at it anyhow?

So, if we’re letting go of the “people-fixer” mindset and acknowledging that everyone owns their own career and development, how can we help them? First, we need to have the conversations that enable us to understand their perspective and what their aspirations and goals really are. Then, we need to explore how they would like to be helped and where they really want to grow. Finally, we need to offer up our own observations, insights, and experiences that are relevant to their direction. We must do this in ways that are consistent with the other suggestions I’ve made. Be specific and clear. Engage in frequent conversation.

I think you’ll find that if you abandon the “people-fixer” mindset and focus instead on the question of what you can offer a person that could help them on their way to achieving their own vision for their career, the whole process will become lighter and easier, not to mention far more fulfilling for both of you. After all, it feels good to help!

Stay tuned for my next two blogs that will continue to explore my remaining recommendations.

Be sure to pick up your copy of my book: “Feedback (and Other Dirty Words): Why We Fear It, How to Fix It.”

Are you looking to engage your employees through feedback? Check out Achievers’ white paper, “Empowerment and Trust: The Keys to Employee Engagement.”

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Profile image of author: Tamra Chandler
by Tamra Chandler
Tamra is a nationally recognized thought leader, author, and speaker. She’s spent the majority of her career thinking about people, researching how they’re motivated, and developing new and effective ways for organizations to achieve the ultimate win-win: inspired people driving inspiring performance. Tamra brings more than thirty years of experience in strategically partnering with organizations across industries on varied and complex business transformation projects to her role as EY Americas People Advisory Services Leader, Principal. Her down-to-earth, results-driven approach emphasizes the human element of organizations and an unwavering focus on the larger picture. Prior to joining EY, Tamra was the CEO and co-founder of PeopleFirm, one of Washington State’s fastest-growing businesses and most successful women-owned firms. Prior to founding PeopleFirm, Tamra served as Arthur Andersen Business Consulting’s Managing Partner for the Pacific Northwest practice, and as the executive in charge of People and Solutions at Hitachi Consulting. She was one of four executives accountable for the performance of Hitachi’s global consulting business. In 2016, she wrote the acclaimed book How Performance Management is Killing Performance — and What to Do About It. Her second book, Feedback (and Other Dirty Words): Why We Fear It, How to Fix It was published in June 2019.

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